Which really matters

We are overwhelmed by information, urgent matters and important tasks. But what's the point? The answer is revealed in a natural way in some rare, privileged moments of life. When Ric Elias's plane began to crash over the Hudson River, he was surprised by deep sadness instead of fear. "I messed up! I've spent my life with something that doesn't matter, instead of those who matter!" When I was in my twenties - full of uncertainty, doubt, anxiety - wondering how to live, I couldn’t find the answer. Once, just standing on the subway platform, I noticed a party. The man treated the woman ugly. At that moment, my elemental realization struck, "Don't hurt! Don't hurt others!" As I was walking down the street on a cold winter day, a homeless man was sitting leaning against the wall of one of the houses with his head bowed. He didn't look up, just said as if to say to himself, "I'm hungry." What else should he have said? These two words are valid in themselves. As Viktor Frankl wrote, "If I find someone deep in a conversation, I'll stop and stop asking because we've arrived." I want to come with you through this book to a really important moment, when the realization grows into our conviction: I already know what really matters. Once we have found our own answers, it is worth developing certain skills and behaviors in ourselves so that we can apply what we have already discovered in our daily lives. This book is intended to be a summary of my professional studies and human experience to date. I longed for what the various human fields had developed in knowledge and research to reach those who needed it most. Bring it to you. Therefore, more than ten major topics have been included in the volume, hopefully gathering the most useful information on a particular area. How do we recognize and make the necessary changes? How do we balance ourselves in times of difficulty? What to do with the painful wounds of our past, the uncertainty of our future? How to communicate more effectively? How do we use our experiences wisely and live productive, fruitful lives? How can spirituality become a lifeblood for us? What can we do to avoid burnout and become a cheerful person? To be smart not only with our tools but also with us? To be able to give our children what they really need? That is, how do we treat ourselves, each other, and our land well?